We are still living together in separate bedrooms though. I still do everything a butler would do, except deliver the meals to her office/bedroom. She eats the leftovers from the meals I cook.

Is it time to 180 and stop washing her laundry and prepare less food so there is no leftovers? In seven yrs she has cooked maybe once a yr and I don't recall her doing any laundry.

Her suv is broke down, I probably can do the repairs but won't unless she asks me to.

M 53
W 44
D25 D20 S22
PA 10/95
BD abt 2k EA
BD 9/2004 PA D'd 1/05/05
DB'd 9/2004-08 PA ends 02/2005
XW rehab 03/2005 piecing until OM3 June?/2005
Remarried 12/28/07
BD 12/18/14
Sep living together