To late? help please

[HPoirot]

Hello Bilbo79. I'm in a similar sitch to you.

Do you have to move out? As it her her A and her thinking to break up your family... consider her moving out.

Whatever happens, you should stay in your home and in your bed. Can she move to another room or a couch?

Also, stop being her friend now. Stop doing nice things for her. Stop initiating conversations. Be distant. Read Sandi's list. Detaching begins with living your life without your W, even if she's in the house with you which is difficult.

If you have joint bank accounts, consider starting to separate your accounts.

And don't bring up OM or have any more R talks with her.

If she comes crying to you... don't reassure her that things will be OK. I did that a lot. It feels good in the moment to be supportive... but she doesn't look at you that way right now. She will continue her A and get the benefits of her R with you unless you start to show her that her behavior does not work for you.

Also, put spaces between your paragraphs in your posts. And make your paragraphs no more than 2 or 3 shorter sentences. That makes them much easier to read and you will get more responses.

Good luck.