Don't let anyone tell you what you should or shouldn't do with timeline. I'm surprised that IC would say something like that, unless the uncertainty is paralyzingly you, let it be on your time.
At the beginning of this, H had set a timeline in passing, of six months on how he thought if we hadn't figured things out -- we obviously weren't going to figure things out. H has also said alot of things, and I don't know if he still holds to that or not. I'm not asking.
I myself thought I should timeline it -- and the moment I set a timeline in my head, my anxiety went through the roof. When I took the timeline out of my head, I calmed back down. I think IC doesn't have hope that H can do the personal work he needs to do to in turn, do the work on the M. Which may come from where she's pushing for a timeline. That, or she may be asserting the fact that I can timeline it -- but I'm perceiving it as pushing. I dunno.
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Take it at his pace, it's the toughest thing to do, but as sandi2 said; if they are ready, they are not going to give up because you're going too slow at progressing things. Fight the urge.
It's a life lesson for sure. I'm struggling with it, but have gotten better in the past few weeks. Not anywhere where I need to be, but small steps.
Thanks for stopping in and sharing MCS!
Last edited by Calibri; 01/08/1505:14 PM.
M:32,H 32 T:10, M5 BD/H Move Out: 9/2014 - extreme anger H Mental Illness Diagnosis: 4/15 Served D Papers: 10/15 Divorced: 11/15
