The things we learn dealing with this! Job, thanks for posting the material on the pursuer distancer relationships. My xh came straight back with an invitation for me to pursue him (in their language) He asked me to go back and re-read my emails - directing me to specific paras written in my emails from August 2013 among others.
He is now saying that any relationship we have in now down to me!!
I replied:(and I am hoping that this will send him away). This 'always wanted a relationship with me' is straight out a magicians's hat. This is a man that has gone months and sometimes years without contacting me or his children, and didn't go to his youngest son's wedding.
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Do you think it would be helpful for me to revisit what you have said and written at different times during the past few years, even if I were so inclined. It risks becoming a giant game of 'Gotcha' from my perspective, and I don't live like that.
Am I right in thinking, from what you said, that you want and always wanted, some sort of relationship rather than no contact at all. Could you articulate what that might look like, and whether it would be negotiable? . To be clear, by relationship in this context I mean anyone I have in my life, as a friend or acquaintance.
