Horse puckey... If they are still friends, then your sitch is stil in the crapper. Face it dude. THERE CAN BE NO FRIENDSHIP WITH OM, NEVER, IF THERE IS TO BE A R WITH YOU.
I don't disagree with any of this.
To summarize (based on a combo of what W has told me, what my reliable source has told me and what I *think*)- W and OM ended their R a while ago. They don't talk any longer other than when that circle of friends hang out. W misses me and wanted to rebuild a friendship. What threw a wrench in all of that is if W did meet up with OM and W's BFF a couple weeks ago as I've been told- who arranged that? Are W and OM still in a R? Are BFF and OM dating and meeting up with W and other friends? The point is that OM and W are still in contact in some form and it's a waste of my time to analyze to what level.
When I asked W about meeting up with OM/BFF, she responded that she was done/filing/getting her own atty. We haven't spoken since. So my options are basically.. a) Send the email, somewhat out of the blue, saying we are not friends as long as she is in contact with OM. Well, we aren't necessarily friends right now, so does that accomplish anything? Would also be about the umpteenth time I've told her we are not friends as long as they are friends. Also adds fuel to the fire if she's considering D. b) Stay dark, not act as friends, let the next few days/weeks/mos play out with no pursuit from me. Continue to GAL and work on my need to control the situation.
Leaning towards option B. This allows me time to asses how I feel (feels strange to say after almost 16 mos of S. Shouldn't I know by now??). Allows W time (with no pressure from me) to decide if she really is pursuing D as she claimed. My bday is in 2 weeks- so does W reach out in any way? She's close to 3 mos into her 6 mo lease, so she also has a living situation to make.
