Shining, I think you are doing great and handling things w/grace. I'm glad you set up a meeting to discuss finances and now everything is out on the table. I also think you are very wise in getting rid of the expensive car and can now look around for something more affordable.
You are the prize and he is the fool. He's going to realize that one day.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
