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[jim0987]

Edz, that's a really good post.

GGrass it sounds like your H is pretty horrible, I don't want to defend him because if the bane calling but you said

The ic said "your h focused only his needs and wants hence you ended up with the outcome you didn't want."

That's pretty much how my wife would describe me and yet I always felt like my wants and needs were set aside for my W. Personally I feel a lot of misinterpretation and assumption goes into this kind of feeling.

Having said that your H might just be a selfish jerk.

Either way he isn't showing any signs of wanting to change that impression or his ways.