May your new year be

[Ggrass]

Throught I better shift some one that here.

It was left of center porn. I have no problem with main stream, but the lieing about it the blaming of others for the downloads and the gaslighting of me over these sorts of issues.

That I never explained my side, when I had, then later being called unforgiving as I wanted some closure to the issues. I was manipluated into a prezel. All solutions needed to be offered by me, without offending him, nearly impossible. If h didn't like a solution he would fly In to a rage, the next few days your weren't able to speak to him it would decend In a disagreement.

I think phil coined the phrase fought over topics not the issues, h did that deliberately to shift Blame and ownership of problems to me. No issues or fight was solved unless I conceeded my position. H thought he compromised constantly but really it was and felt like unequal giving on my side.

My feeling were totally invalid in h eyes, I wasn't allowed to process stuff in my way in my terms. Wanting to process or Discuss stuff with him more than once was harping and then his action was to name call, withdraw and fly Into a rage.

The ic said "your h focused only his needs and wants hence you ended up with the outcome you didn't want."

It went a tad further than that h not only just hammered you in the back ground till you gave in, he then would talk of how selfish you would be putting your needs first. Thus making you feel small for asking.

So re writing history, gaslighting and emotional manipulation were his tools. I did not think anyone could be that calculating and thought the better you treat people the better they treat you. Um wrong.

Do I think things will be different with ow?
Well no.

What gives me that impression?
Well ow is already showing the symptoms I was, and she's only one year on the scene.
H is also not introducing her to people, she doesn't even say hello either. H is hiding her for the most part. She appears to take no pride in her, from reports.

Nothing about him is different, in fact as others have stated these new ow can only end really badly.

Hope some of that rambling makes better sense today as I'm not so tired.