Busting this Divorce - 90 Days NC #4

[jim0987]

Hi HP,

I don't usually have much to say on your thread as the advice you get is good stuff.

In your post you talk about how your wife texted you about the bball game 'as though it will be a blast'

You know you out the tone on that right?

"Will you be there? Game's at x time!"

Forgive the mind reading for a second, but there are loads of ways this can be interpreted, for example:

- the games Friday it will be a blast
- I'm worried you'll be there and ruin the game for me
- I hope your coming I can't way to see you
- this games important don't be late
- I want us to show S12 we both care and can be around each other.

Etc. Etc. Etc.

Shows why mind reading is futile and we clearly don't know our wives as well as we thought we did. But what's hurting you here is less about what she said (and yes there is a boundary issue) and more your reaction to it.

I agree with Sandi. You need a break HP but not just from your W from yourself as well, I feel like you need to do whatever you can to find some peace for a few days.

If you can find that peace, if only for a little bit, I think some of the other issues will become clearer for you

Good luck HP - you're doing great in a really rough situation.