Db'd after W D me in 04 remarried W in 07 DB again

[Jbird]

From DBing before I know I am doing a very poor job of it. I told W that if she can honestly say I am no longer her BF and she doesn't want to be around me to go ahead a D me.

Here is a few more things that occurred before BD. W worked out of town the last two wks of Sept. She talked w/me almost every minute she wasn't working. Then one day she calls during work hrs confessing she was being blackmailed by an old classmate. She made a video with sexual content for me but also sent the same video to the old classmate. He wanted more and she refused so he threatened to tell me. She got pain killers for her nose that was cracked and took too many to know what she was doing. W chose to get IC on her own for the relapse and the undesirable conduct.
The months of Oct and Nov were great, fun dates and more sex than our entire M. She buys an 8k wedding ring for her and a 2k one for me, using her money.