Don't let anyone tell you what you should or shouldn't do with timeline. I'm surprised that IC would say something like that, unless the uncertainty is paralyzingly you, let it be on your time. Anyway long story, I'll tell you in my sitch, I still don't know whether it was real or a smoke screen, but 2 months ago it seemed like the W cracked open an Opportunity to talk about our R. This was right after I confronted her about OM, so not sure if it was just reactionary. Anyway, I took a crowbar, through it in the crack and busted it wide open to try and solve everything......bad move. I got emotionally involved in trying to reconcile, she started to shut down, I through DB out the door and it put us back to square one. Really NC anymore, W saying she doesn't feel emotionally safe around me, very timid opening up for anything.
Take it at his pace, it's the toughest thing to do, but as sandi2 said; if they are ready, they are not going to give up because you're going too slow at progressing things. Fight the urge.
Best of luck.
M:36 W:37 T: 15 M:11 S6 D5 BD: 8/10/14 IDLY: 8/12/14 S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids) D Mentioned: 10/15/14 Confronted about OM: 10/15/14 EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13 She filed: 8/15 (not final)
