Wonka -- yes, makes sense about the JC and about the thread. Will continue here from here on out...
AJM -- Thanks for the additional thoughts on "questions." I have decided that it isn't productive for me to question her about this. I do know the EA is occurring and I accept that asking her about it won't make it end. Will try to avoid guessing about the "silent retreat." I do understand, from all of my reading, that the EA is an addiction right now.
I do intend to stand, although I do realize that I may be standing for much longer than I hope.
But while I am standing I'll be doing everything I can to take care of myself and my kids. I love the Lighthouse story (http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...619#Post2484619) and want to be that for my W when/if she wakes up from this MLC fog.
Me 48, Her 50 (Same-Sex Couple) 3 Children Together: 9.5 years before BD BD: Week of 10/27/14 ExW started EA w OW 9/2014 ExW married OW 12/2015