ive done as much as time will permit regarding GAL, ive got the kids 3 nights a week, i go out once a week and play golf twice a week and been to spain on golf holidays twice. she insists she wont agree to a divorce but she wont commit either ( ive not asked her to commit, i want it to be her decision ) im trying my best to detach but because we live close its very difficult, i changed the locks on our home the day she moved in to her new place. she text me today "was i out this evening" but i didnt reply, she then text to say that she was getting herself a key cut, shes said this lots of times but never actually does it. she came over yesterday to drop the kids off and stayed for an hour but didnt speak, just layed on the floor cwtching my dog, i just carried on what i was doing and didnt initiate any conversation, she left without saying goodbye. did i do the right thing or should i say hello next time ? normally if i start a conversation she will interact as if nothing has happened. she says when we talk its surreal because she feels like we haven't talked in years, i enjoy it to but struggle after she leaves wondering where shes going and who shes seeing etc. i get the feeling shes finding it hard to let go of our family, i know my wife like nobody and the om is doing nothing more than feeding her ego and the emotional needs i neglected, he's got no prospects and is an absolute bum, everybody (and i mean everybody) describes him as an immature child, this will play into my hands eventually, i would be more concerned if he was half decent but he is not. its a struggle at the moment to decide to divorce or fight, do i want to be with someone who when the going gets tough cheats ? what if 10 years down the line things get tough again and she does the same ? she could have just left me for neglecting her and i would be the sorriest person in the world with nobody to blame but me. i love my wife more than anything but cheating is a serious character flaw and something which ive always thought is a deal breaker for me. i know this site is called divorce busting and is to help stop divorce, thats why im here, at the moment im 60/40 in favour of trying to reconcile but at the same time i feel im over the worst of the pain so maybe its better to let things go. as you can tell im as mixed up as my wife at the moment and dont know what to do for the best
thanks for taking an interest and hopefully guiding my family in the wright direction
