I just re read your post. I have read your thread and will go back and check it out again. I have been more friendly with my H because I thought we were moving towards reconnecting. Previous to the last four months I was not unfriendly just more friendly neighbor like. I won't be as friendly now and will be going back to being friendly neighbor. Otherwise I will be letting my H cake eat. Why would he move forward if I'm giving him all he needs without having too. I know that if I ever want a committed relationship with H. I won't get it continuing as I have. Now I need to pull back and drop the rope. When you are engaing with your W leave her wishing she could have more time with her. If you tell yourself ( when you catch yourself)!being "too" friendly that you are actually preventing her from missing you and prolonging the process it may help you be more of a friendly neighbor. Ask yourself if I text, call, chat too long am I getting closer to my goal or am I actually pushing my goal further away. That short term gain feeling you get from contact won't help in the long run. ; )
Me 52 H 44 T9 M 5 BD 12/11 H split 8/12 OW moved in 12/12 OW gone for good 6/14 We get closer again 9/14 SD 13 Me 4 Grown
Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.
