It will pass with time, try to focus in things more meaningful to you at this moment. Sometimes I picture you on dirty pj's, drinking a ton of coffee, smoking a cigarette and searching the net to see who said what about you (Just kidding).
Let go of all these fears, they won't make you a better person. They are not adding to your life in any way, they just get you depressed further.
And what if you got divorced? It sure is not the best thing in the world, but it's not the worse either. Besides, you are not angry with the situation, you are judging yourself, you feel you failed and that's what is driving you crazy.
You have all rights to be angry, hurt, really mad, but do this because you are feeling all this grief. Don't waste your time and energy thinking about the nose people that are looking for public records. If they are your friends, they probably know what is going on and will not criticize you, if someone does, then they are not your friends and you do not need friends like these ones.
