J, when you look at these kinds of questions - ask yourself what you'll get from asking. Often with stuff like this (MLC) you'll get a face full of anger and then some. You also won't get honesty in most cases.
Also, be kind to yourself - you only know what you know. Don't assume anything and don't try to guess.
You either keep standing for your marriage or you pack her things while she's gone "to get her head straight". Don't oscillate between the two as that will tear you up and wear you down.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
