If this is a MLC (sure sounds it) then it may be a long ride...
Hrdtims,
I feel for you. You are entangled in her misery. Clearly, you are not detached. Your sitch goes, as she goes. When she is stable, you are fine. When she is unstable, your emotions follow.
Your W really has no motivation to change. Why? Because she is leading and you are enabling her to lead. The dynamics of your sitch will change when you get tired of the emotional roller coaster she has you on.
You can't change her. You can affect change by taking the lead and changing yourself. Maybe she will follow, or maybe she will not. Only time will tell.
Start with detaching.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
