My opinion- and this exact message with CONSISTENT ACTION. Sending words just looks attached, pursuing, and controlling. There's no way to say verbally "I'm letting to" because the act of saying it is clinging. Just let to and get distance. An action is worth 1,000 words.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15