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Reiterating what sandi said, I think coach is referring to the eventual outcome of the sitch. If you're obsessing over saving your M, with every decision aimed at saving your M (don't upset her, don't offend her, want her to see your changes, make changes that you think she'll like, etc.), you won't be focused on the right things.

Thanks for clarifying your sitch to me. I'm sure you've read it 100 times, but just know that she is speaking in absolute negatives! You don't stay with someone for 9.5 years if you're incompatible. Who knows what will happen in the future, but that statement, I guarantee, is not true. Just don't argue the point with her.

The primary reason why I don't want to have lunch with her is for my own sake because I need to detach. The second reason, which I can't tell her, is that she has to miss me at some point for reconciliation to become an option

Find a simple, self-respecting way to tell her the primary reason (don't make yourself look weak, just have respect for yourself). Don't be wordy - less is more. I think it goes without saying that you should not mention the 2nd reason.