"What do you mean, pass? You don't want to have lunch? Do you prefer that we never meet then? It would make me sad because I think we need to keep some face to face contact, that we're not robots with each other. I'm under the impression that you're not interested and it's detrimental to our relationship. Explain it to me please so that we're clear."
Wowzer, A's make people stupid. WAW sure seems awfully concerned about the R that she stepped out of to have an A.
Mozza, HERE is the boundaries thread I tried to find. It was from Coach back in 2009. Read it ASAP!!!
Be sure to read through the entire thread, as helpful advice keeps rolling in from others. I don't think you have to pretend like OM doesn't exist, you just don't want to mention or bring him up unless you absolutely have to. In this case, he and her R with him are the reason you do not want to have lunch with her. So you have to mention it. The key is, it's not about controlling her, it's about protecting you.
You can look through that thread for inspiration of exactly how you want to word it, but this phrase from Coach stands out:
Originally Posted By: Coach
Is being treated like a "roommate" how you want to continue on? Let go of the outcome and your thinking will clear up.
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23
