The only thing I can think of is the delivery -- how have you been delivering your message to him?
TBH, the way you come across here -- even in your messages is very much filled with frustration, a bit of indignation, and an attitude that your way is right. I'm just giving an outsiders perspective. Are you talking to your husband in the same way?
I'm not trying to knock you --- I've been where you have been, minus the pain meds. And I've realized that while I'm saying different things, my tone and the way I'm approaching it is still conveying old behaviors. I feel you have every right to feel the way you do.
I think you have to weigh the pros and cons here. How close is this friend? Has friend had conversations with your H that indicates that this would work? My concern is - your H just blasted you out of the water just a few days ago for talking to his family about the issues. Will he do the same because you're talking to a friend of his.
You have to weigh the pros and cons. If you go, you know that you've done everything you can.
The cons, if he's telling you to leave him alone......there's something to respecting his wishes. If you go out there you either get more of the same, or you have the possibility that he might come home.
The thing is, I get the impression that you want him to come home on his own accord. That it's his idea to come back. To achieve that, he has to do his own thing, hit rock bottom, think about life, whatever it is that he has to do.
How long has he been gone for this "six week break"?
M:32,H 32 T:10, M5 BD/H Move Out: 9/2014 - extreme anger H Mental Illness Diagnosis: 4/15 Served D Papers: 10/15 Divorced: 11/15
