Not just you having those feelings, I'd love - just love - to be in a position to say the same to w, but I suspect I'd get "its not that simple" back either that or "nothings changed since..".
Not sure about you but its the Mr Fixit in me, somethings broken, it appears to be fixable so the problem is... Last months have been about me looking closely at those drives and realising I can only change me, if w choses to be off in her own world with her own edited memories then I cant do much about that except sort myself, 180 and be the best me I can starting with how those changes appear and then making them a core of me.
It does seem so very counter-intuitive and complicated when it feels it shouldnt be though.
Short version, you're not alone in feeling that way.
Hang on in there.
Edz
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015