Jim0987 #9 - Blackholes, cats and overanalysis

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Yeah, I'll take that as Jim has turned a new leaf! Acceptance, reflection….all good things. As Vanilla said, you have insights that you didn’t have not so long ago. Now the question is what new features will be included in Jim Mk 8 in response to these new insights?

In regards to your wife being hurt - does that allow you to come to her from a place of compassion rather than anger? I have certainly found this in my own sitch (though I don’t know if there is an OW and I suspect that would make it harder).

I tend to agree with you BTW re the spew reflecting her feelings. I think to “believe half of what they say, and only half of what they do” is designed to protect OUR feelings to ensure we can carry on. There’s a noble goal there but I think we do need to be careful not to be dismissive of their feelings, however impacted they are by the chemicals of infatuation, alien juice, etc.