So my wife and I have been together for almost 6 years. We have had many fights mostly all of them my fault. I use to watch porn and she considered that cheating and the last time I did it was in early October. She found out and got mad but I think she aways knows that I dont care about porn like I do her. Ok so to the real problem because I have stoped all the porn nonsense.
On new years eve she was going out with her friends and i was asking all kinda of questions and she was getting mad because I quess I do this often. So she snaped and told me its over that I would not be the man in her life any more and that she just cant take the abuse anymore. At first I was like no way she is being real. Well she didnt come back home till the 1st and I was so mad and didnt help anything said things I shouldnt have.....
So we talked alot ( more like yelled at eachother blaming everything on the other person) this was the worst it has ever been. I couldnt stop either I was so filled with fear that I actually lost her. Well the last 2 days we have fought but not nearly as much or as bad but she has been gone almost every day when I get home she leaves. Im in the army and I wirk in a stressful environment im not home as much as I would like to be and normally when I get home im exhausted. This is my problem she said abuse and I just wanted to yell at her but I dont because that is part of what she is saying that is wrong with me.
I will admit to neglecting her WAY too much truthfully she is a trooper to still be here. The abuse is emotional I just try to control everything she says and I will admit to alot of this. I would say I am the cause of 80% of our marriage problems this is why I start counseling tomorrow and I plan on breaking my controling problem but in the mean time she is gone all the time now with these new friends. We have had some good talks in the last few days but still fighting and I feel like im competing with her friends most of the time.
Im just so lost on what to do. I know im supose to live my life and get it right then worry about repairing us but we have 4 kids and are still in the same house.... its hard to not try to talk to her im just so deeplybin love with her and I know now she is doing things I would normally not approve of with other individuals. Its hard not to tell her to get out but I think I have a better chance if she is in the house.
I dont know guys what do you all think about this.
