Just out of curiosity, if D isn't what you want, why did you file? Why didn't you give it a little time and let your wife handle that?
in the beginning, D is the last thing I wanted. I tried and struggled for 6 months only to realize she had her mind made up from the beginning. She moved out and insisted divorce was the only way. the more I thought about it, what would keep her from doing the same thing a short while down the road IF we would try to work things out later?? nothing. we agreed on everything and there is no contest nor is there any major fighting. we are going our separate ways and will be "friends" for our daughter. If, and that is a very strong IF, we would ever even consider getting back together.....we would have to start from scratch anyways. I'm not going to hold onto the string for years hoping she will change her mind and come back. So, I filed ..... the ultimate "letting go" of the rope. Honestly, I feel better knowing how things are than I did HOPING how they MIGHT be or not be.
I guess it's a form of tough love. I've learned to just let go of things that are NOT in my control. and it's a good feeling not breaking down and crying because I don't know what is going to happen or because I am wanting her back.
Last edited by lostluv; 01/07/1506:50 AM.
me-42 w-33 d-3 together-6 m-4yr 6/1/14-w check out 6/15/14-EA? 8/1/14-mc 9/1/14-IDLY-started DBing 9/15/14-w suggest separation 10/17/14 wife is done 12/13/2014 - wife move out me file 1/1/15
