If a glorified nanny is all you need, then carry on. But if your heart is involved - and if you're trying to save your M - you're eventually going to be hurt again if you continue on this course.
Pay the piper today. Or pay him tomorrow. Either way, he's coming with his hand out.
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014