Maybell XXVI

[labug]

Because I would have been a WAW six years ago if I'd had the courage.

Interesting you should bring this up because I addressed it in the post I discarded.
"Many women, including me, end up here with a "WTF, I was unhappy for all those years and put up with you and now you have the audacity to leave?" mindset.

There's anger toward ourselves for putting up with stuff for so long. And anger toward the H for beating us to the punch.

But we can't go back and change that. We can't make our S pay for it. We made a choice to stay. We got something out of the deal with the devil."

That's where some of your work will be, forgiving yourself.

I would caution to go with what you know to be true. Once we create a story in our mind, we begin interacting with the person based on that, true or not. Let it be enough that he was dishonest and went outside the marriage and that was the end for you.

Allow him to take his unhappiness with him.