Retreat

[Marylov]

Wow, you just gave me such great advice. I love that first comment about his perception is his reality. That is right on! If he is miserable then he is miserable. It doesn't matter if I think things aren't that bad. I am working hard to change, especially while he is here in the house still. I am going to be persistent, even though he told me that nothing I say or do will convince him that any changes I make will be anything but temporary.

I have a question I could use some advice on. He absolutely hates our house (it was mine before we were married), and he says I need to sell it because he is moving out and he can't afford to support two households. He knows that I will have to move in with my parents. I just don't know what to do. I feel like if I move in with my parents, it will be really hard for us to reconcile, especially because my parents would be very upset about us separating. I can't afford to pay for the house myself but I could take out some money from my 401k to get my by for a few months. Any thoughts?? I asked him if he wanted me to get a realtor and he said no, but that he wanted us to "make a plan". But when we tried to talk about it we didn't really get anywhere.