I'm on the boards because my hubby is going through a midlife crisis and we are currently separated. This though was my second marriage. I was married the first time when I was only 19 and stayed married until I turned 30. During that time we had four children. It was my choice to split so I guess at that time I was the WAS. The way the MC explained it to my hubby was think of your favorite team being in the playoffs and they lost. Now you are no longer that interested in the playoffs. That's where your wife is. I was emotionally shut down and it takes along time for a woman to get there. What has been said in other posts about the WAS not believing the changes right away is totally true. My spouse at the time suddenly tried doing all the things inhale been complaining about. Including sending me flowers ect. It was all a little too late and the more he pushed the further I closed off. Then he'd get mad and remind me through his behavior why I wanted to leave. Now if he had backed off, given me space, had PMA and GAL do I think we would have worked out? I don't know. What I do know though is I would have taken a second look and if his changes stayed long term who knows. Just a little insight for you. 😉
Me 52 H 44 T9 M 5 BD 12/11 H split 8/12 OW moved in 12/12 OW gone for good 6/14 We get closer again 9/14 SD 13 Me 4 Grown
Accept what is...let go of what was and have faith in what will be.
