His perception is his reality. You need to change that.
You need to do a lot of validation while interacting with him. You seem to dismiss his feelings. Many times you will have a different perspective on certain things. It's completely fine to not always agree. It doesn't require an argument. There might not be a right or wrong. Simply different perspectives. That is the reality when you have two different individuals.
Read your last post, and count how many times you said, "but". Essentially anything before the word "but" doesn't matter. What follows are many excuses that make your "intent" inconsequential. I am not going to address anything about him, because you are the one here.
Own your part, and then make genuine changes that will affect the dynamics of your marriage.
If you don't make the change, who will? Make a list of things you want to change or improve and start there. Small attainable goals.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
