I was reluctant going to MC (mediation) today because I was worried that the wife would really start to push changing the schedule with the kids now that she's in a new house. Well I was right, the first thing she says what she wanted to have the kids week on week off. The issue with this is I don't think that this is the best thing for the kids, but anytime I try to talk to her about it she gets angry and tells me I'm withholding the kids from her. So I tried today to talk to her as gently as possible and let her understand that I don't mind changing the schedule but I don't think a full week on and off is a good idea.
The issue is as soon as I say that she just will not talk to me about anything and will not have a conversation about what is good for the kids and how we both feel. She is really, really timid talking to me, to the point that it appears almost like someone who has been victimized. I will say this has never ever happened, there's never been any sort of violence, anger anything at all in our marriage. So the marriage counselor, I think, realizes that and is trying to get us to talk outside of counseling but she refuses. I try to have a conversation during counseling and she's not interested. I'd like to just sit back and give her space but she's trying to make me make these decisions about long-term solutions for the kids. I just don't know what to do. I said today that I'm fine changing the schedule so that she can have more weekdays if she wants to be involved with their school, but she keeps saying that the week on week off is pretty much what she wants. I'd like to talk to her about maybe having the other person pick up the kids for dinner once or twice a week or something like that but she wants no contact at all with me.
It is truly like I don't know this person at all. All I want to do is to talk about the kids and have an interchange but she refuses. So that gets me more reserved about making any decisions with the kids because she won't even tell me how to communicate with her and have a conversation. All she does is say if I have something to talk about with the kids to email her. Then I found out today that she's telling people that I refuse to let her see the kids. This is BS, everything that she's asked for I've tried to accommodate. I just don't know where to go from here that she wants me to make decisions about the future of our kids will not talk to me at all about it.
M:36 W:37 T: 15 M:11 S6 D5 BD: 8/10/14 IDLY: 8/12/14 S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids) D Mentioned: 10/15/14 Confronted about OM: 10/15/14 EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13 She filed: 8/15 (not final)
