ONE MORE QUESTION FOR ANYONE -- any experience sending an email or correspondence to their spouses affair partner, asking NICELY in a very genuine manner, to please not come to our house until after things are finalized? Everything I read says it is a slippery slope for kids in that environment and I am concerned about mine.
I don't think the OM has been here...yet. But I do have a feeling, based on the current timeline, that is may be in the cards within the next few months?
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Standing by.
Just caught up a bit on your sitch ... thought I would chime in.
As far as the OM contact .... never a good idea. As bad as I have always wanted that .. even an accidental meeting ... I know it would do nothing but damage, you would only drive her colser to him and she will defend him tooth and nail at this point and that gets you no where regardless if you want R or not.
The anger thing ... I will tell you for me... its fuel to get to where you need to be, detaching, not focusing on W, moving past some of the hurt ... at least that's what I have used it for. Its a cruddy place to be ... but what you are feeling is normal and beware its cyclic ... mad and angry for a few days .. level out .. then just having 'meh' days and can not explain why ... rinse repeat but with each wash its less intense.
