I feel like I'm supposed to want the marriage healed if I'm here. I DO want the marriage healed. But I don't believe it can be because H doesn't see anything wrong with his choices.
Maybell, you do not have to want to heal your R or feel like you can ever take H back to be here. DBing is not for the spouse or significant other, as far as I'm concerned. Its for the DBer, for US, to heal OURSELVES and our lives.
If our DBing ever makes our spouses come back, great. If it doesn't, okay, too. If it does but we find we can't reconcile how we've been hurt enough to go there, again, fine.
You're a welcome part of this community and a valid member of the family of support that's been built here.
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
