Oh Wonka -- Can your spirit enter my body so I can say/do all of those things... I am trying. A struggle here is that in our R she has always been the one who controlled a lot of things... that is probably obvious by now. I have usually just gone along with things unless it was something that I felt very strongly about. She definitely likes to be in control -- professionally she is a project manager and she carries that mindset into her personal life (spreadsheets, workplans, timelines, etc.)
Okay - now I see something I need to work on in my IC... :-) For lack of a better phrase "I need to grow a pair..."
In all seriousness though, I have been trying to at least communicate the need to NOT make any moves out of the house (neither of us) until the end of the school year for the sake of the kids -- to not disrupt their routines and structure during the school year. This isn't sitting well with her because of her need to control a fast separation. Any rational person would see the importance of keeping the needs of the kids as a priority over any selfishness needs... But I am dealing with a MLCer (or a middle-aged rebellious teenager) and not a rational-thinking person...
Me 48, Her 50 (Same-Sex Couple) 3 Children Together: 9.5 years before BD BD: Week of 10/27/14 ExW started EA w OW 9/2014 ExW married OW 12/2015
