So the last couple weeks went about as expected- disagreements on who would have the kids on what days while MIL was in town. I tried to propose a schedule prior to her arrival, but W essentially ignored it and would just text the kids when she was on her way to pick them up. Frustrating because my options were to just let her take the kids whenever she pleased or tell her they're not going and risk a fight with her. It takes two to agree to a schedule.

W and I had been getting along pretty well prior to last week, so I asked if she had any interest in hanging out NYE. When she finally gave me an answer, she said she'd rather not have to explain to MIL because she'd have expectations (wanting us to work things out). Felt like that was a weak excuse, especially when I found out that she got together with the OM circle of friends the next night.

So my gameplan had been to just lay low for the next few mos, not extend any more invitations and see how W responded. Had been putting a lot of thought on whether my heart was still in it anymore. Then yesterday a mutual friend (reliable source) told me that his understanding of dinner between OM and W's BFF a couple weeks ago was known by W because she was meeting up with them afterwards. I'm tired of being lied to- lied to throughout our S, lied to while we were going to MC, lied to about OM contact while we were trying to rebuild a friendship...so I sent W a text asking if that was true. She responded that she didn't have to tell me anything anymore and that she was done. I had hurt and manipulated her too much. I had made friendship impossible. She's getting her own atty and filing.

I responded calmly reiterating that as long as she was still in contact with OM, a friendship between us would not work. We went back and forth for a few mins with a few 'whatever's from her before she stopped responding. She prefers to shut down rather than discuss.

We'll see if she actually goes forward as this isn't the first time she's said those words. In the meantime, I'm going dark. Not in an effort to 'win' her back, but to help me in not taking any anger or frustration out on her. I'm ok with moving towards D, just frustrated that we can't just discuss things.

I know that I didn't follow the DB process much these past couple weeks, but I refuse to be a pushover when it comes to the kids. Honesty is a huge part of friendship to me and if I have evidence that W is continuing to lie to me about hanging out with OM (even if they are just friends now), I don't want to be M to her. That is a boundary that I refuse to budge on.