Busting this Divorce - 90 Days NC #4

[paul19510]

HP, my STBXW comes by each morning to pick the kids up for school. That's the most that she does. Other than that she doesn't spend much time with them. When she calls I take a deep breath and answer pleasantly. She responds in kind. We are not actively trying to "save the M" anymore. We are just waiting for the D to finish. All we have left is to be decent parents and act well with our kids and each other.

Try to be in that space. Treat her with common courtesy and respect (even when you feel she really doesn't deserve it). Its just the same as you would give to others. It is not the same as being a doormat. No one wants that. Treat her like you're running a coffee shop and she stopped in as a customer. Smile, be pleasant. And go on with you day. I promise...your life will be so much better. Decide not to ride the roller coaster. They want a reason to act badly and push away....don't give her one.