So, Buddhism. In a nutshell: all things are impermanent, which is the only constant in life. All things end. Because of this, attachment to things/people/anything causes suffering.
DB principles support this. Detach, detach, detach.
I agree with this. The brain knows it. Holding on, clinging to things that change, is foolish. Hurting and suffering because of my feelings for BF and the loss of our R is causing suffering. I am in control of this.
What I'm not clear on is HOW to detach. Focusing on me is fine and dandy, but I have trouble not feeling what I'm feeling and those feelings hurt. I need to research this, because I don't want to feel these things anymore. It [censored].
ME: 38 BF: 40 T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice) BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R. 10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW 12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
