Busting this Divorce - 90 Days NC #4

[HPoirot]

Thank you everyone for your support. This is a terrible time for us here and I appreciate your taking time to post here. I hope in some way this thing I'm going through helps you too.

Today is S12 science fair. He's to do a presentation.

He's the text first thing this morning from W...

Hi HP. I have been awake for an hour thinking of S12 and the science fair. While he is nervous about it and how he will present, he's also nervous about you and I being there together and if we will be there to support him. We are his parents and need to reassure him that we can be civil and be there for him. I realize you are angry with me, but for his sake you really can't behave like that with him around. Nor can I. We have to really make an effort. That panic attack was about more than the quality of his work. I think you must known that.

Please come to the fair today and please don't ignore me or act like you can't look at me. We need to behave like his parents and show him we are unified in our support for him. If you cannot do this then don't come. But know that you will hurt him by not being there. And more so you hurt him by not acknowledging me.

Can we behave better when we are with him? Can we be more respectful to each other when he is around?

This is very hard for s12 as you know but there are ways we can minimize the impact on our boy. Please help me do this.

S12 said he would like me to be there. Just be the person making the changes to be a better person then. Be the non-petulant non-ornery person who helps her do this.

So this is my test today. I go and be cordial and leave b/c I have to and it's the right thing to do.

I could write a book about what I want to say right now but there's no point. What I have to do is simple and my feelings have nothing to do with anything as they are on the shelf. I'm going to keep getting texts for help for years to come and I'll suck it up and do my best.

That's all.