Busting this Divorce - 90 Days NC #4

[TLEE86]

HP, one last thought. I cant remember, but why did you take off your ring? Was it because you are angry/resentful and don't want to look at it anymore? Or was it because your W isn't wearing hers?

IMHO, it seems very rejecting if you took your ring off. Like...you truly are done. WAS' taking off their rings hurts us deeply, but this is there choice. In their minds, they are done, they don't want to work on the M anymore. We are supposed to be that rock, the lighthouse...I feel that by you taking off your ring, you are trying too hard to show W that you are "moving on/done."

I think there is a difference between showing WAW that you are moving on without her BUT she is welcome to join you, vs you are moving on without her and you never want her back.

Based on your attitude towards your W lately due to anger/resentment, and taking off your ring, I fear that your W may just be thinking that you are done and never want her again...

Your W is already angry. How do you think she takes it when she sees you without your ring? I know we are not supposed to care about what our WAW's think, and this should be about us, but everything you do needs to be strategic, asking yourself, is this helping me move forward with or without my W, but ideally with her...

Be that rock, that confident HP that can show his wife, that no matter what happens you still have faith in your M, but right now you are living your life for you. Whether she wants to come along is up to her, but you are not giving up. To me, taking your ring off is just..your done. I don't think we as LBH's can afford that..just my 2 cents

Id be curious to see what vets or former WAW's have to say about this...