Busting this Divorce - 90 Days NC #4

[TLEE86]

HP, I think its well-worded, but IMHO and I mean no disrespect, but the way it comes off is that you and W are just trying to give each other S11 and neither one of you really wants him. I know this is not what you are trying to say at all. But just reading it...you're using words like..."I am willing to keep him" or "Can we get to less nights for me", "I could also use the next 2 Fridays off."

Maybe try something like "I appreciate you putting together this new schedule for S12. I see he is with me 14 evenings and you have him 5.

I am more than happy to have S12, you know I love spending time with him, and I understand the challenges for you staying at your aunts house. I do have a couple things coming up in the next 2 Fridays, so would you mind taking care of him for those nights?"

Idk, something like that. What I am trying to say is that, I know you love spending time with S12, and your son obviously loves spending time with you. Convey that to your W. Don't make it such a business transaction where it sounds like both of you just want him less nights so that you can GAL/do your own thing. Also, just trying to use words like "would" instead of should/could. I hope you get where I am going with this.

Also, one last note. Im not sure I would go with the "I'd be happy to help you with $150..." because lets be honest, HP...are you really happy to give that to her?

I thought your first draft regarding the rental car/$ was better.

When it comes to your S12, make it warm and fuzzy and agreeable with your W because its your son! When it comes to $, be friendly, but more business-like. I feel like you have it backwards in this post.

Just my 2cents.