Depending on who comes out "ahead" I guess will determine how talkative or nastily silent my W will be.
I do wonder and maybe someone has had this happen in their sitch.
I know there are stories about R on the way to sign the D papers.
They are truly miracles. Now that we are at the spousal support stage and a little beyond because I am fighting to have it lowered. What is the % of R after this has happened?
Don't know.
Originally Posted By: nit84
My W says no negotiations till the 2 yrs date but her date and my date differ so it most likely will be up to the courts to decide which one will hold precedent. If it is hers that will be in 6 months mine would be 17 months. I have been given the gift of time but now I feel some pressure of a deadline.
This is even more pressing now that W has moved out and can't see my changes any longer.
It's easier to make changes when they are not able to monitor or see you very often. Do it for yourself.
Originally Posted By: nit84
I can forgive the A if my W is willing to work on things(at this moment my feeling is she is not ready). I sit patiently and keep doing what I think will help and not doing things that I think will hurt. It is agonizing to sit and think Am I doing enough? because I an willing to do more. What that "more" is I haven't a clue. Waiting for the A to cool isn't so bad because they almost always do right?
Haha. It's funny. As long as you support them, that A can go on for ever. Once you pull your emotional and financial support many of the affair partners did not sign up for all that, so they will pull out.
Originally Posted By: nit84
I don't compare myself to OM but I wonder if my W is just having the A to spite me.
With all the Ashley Madison's, all the shoes on TV, all the GNO's, all the propaganda... It's in the back of their mind. So wifey may cheat on someone who is the exact opposite of you just because. Because what you are now no longer "attracts" her.
Originally Posted By: nit84
OM has no job, has 2 children (11) and one younger then that. He is only 1.5 younger than me and is still at the house owned by OMW all the time accept when he is at the gym or at night staying at a friends house(not where my W is staying). I know most women have A for the emotional aspect and my W was not the Nympho type so I don't think it is for the sex only.
Wife may not been the nympho type with you, but what about with him? Perhaps she's a raging sex maniac with the guy. Affairs do bring that out in people.
Most of your posts are worried about your wife and what she thinks and your changes, that she can see them. What about YOU and your own needs? Aren't your needs important? Isn't what you think important?
Do woman really do things just to get back at men for what they feel was a horrible M?
Sorry went on a little ride there but I do think of things and scratch my head.
