KGirl - one year later con't

[Mozza]

This is a very mature reflection, KGirl. What is the extent of our control over our spouse? What should we endure? Where are we different from most people? How should we change if at all? I'm thinking along the same lines. I have a hard time adopting the idea that each spouse can do whatever they want. It seems like we should be able to place boundaries and see them respected in a couple, because we give much in return.

My IC would be very happy to hear you say that the main challenge is to find the right person. It seems to be his view of relationships. People get in the wrong relationships with the wrong people for the wrong reasons (like my lack of self confidence and fear of rejection around women). I'm not ready to accept it because he implies that My W and I might be unfit for each other, but it's food for thought.