Went to IC today. She's been listening a lot over the last couple months but not really giving me things to 'work on.' Well, today she told me that I'm getting paralyzed making decisions for today based on not knowing how they would affect the future. She said part of the issue of why I feel this way is that W is making decisions based on 'now' and I'm continuing to look in the future.
It actually sums up how I feel pretty well, she actually rattled off exactly what I said in the posts above about how I'm so nervous about how the future will play out. She said that's where faith needs to come in. Its tough to hear that, not because I don't have faith, but I think its the next step in relinquishing control
She told me to write two letters to be read in the future about how I'm feeling and what I'm doing about the sitch. One is for me, one if for my kids. I'm going to tackle that this weekend. I think its so I can start to see for myself that I've done everything I can do right now
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---A friend at work said she saw W with the kids at a store, W doesn't know this friend, but the friend said that D4 was out in just tights and flip-flops in 30 degree weather. W would have never done that before. I'm not going to say anything about it, but I have noticed based on what the kids say and other things, that she has pretty much changed her parenting style to laissez faire with the kids. It kind of reminds me of the beginning of that movie Big Daddy, if I were to make a parallel
---Also heard that when she dropped off Xmas presents at a friends that she was saying that it wasn't much because money's tight....because she's having to pay 2 mortgages. Funny, I keep trying to take my mortgage or at least pool ours together, but she won't do it. I guess she wouldn't be able to complain to others that she's the victim in this. That's a recurring theme I've seen over the last year, she stretches the truth to make her look like she's always getting the short end of the stick. This is something that the MIL has always done and my wife hated it. Now she's doing it....ugh. It was a time like this a year ago that she was complaining that nothing ever goes right in her life, that I dropped "Stop trying to make yourself look like a Martyr." One slip up a year ago, because that's what it seemed she was trying to do. That's when she tells me she shut down on our M.
---Got a 'catch-up' email on the kids from her. it said "Kids did fine, no issues" That was it. I think she's anti-DBing my DBing.
M:36 W:37 T: 15 M:11 S6 D5 BD: 8/10/14 IDLY: 8/12/14 S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids) D Mentioned: 10/15/14 Confronted about OM: 10/15/14 EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13 She filed: 8/15 (not final)
