The poor man was clearly completely unreconstructed following his own divorce.
I felt like I was in a situation that was like that movie where the guy has to find a woman to marry him before new year's eve in order to qualify for some sort of inheritance.
The emails came thick and fast - sometimes 2 or 3 before i 'd had time to reply...
When i met him, he started touching me affectionately immediately (rubbing my shoulder and arms). He straightaway started reminiscing about all sorts of specific occasions from 40 yrs ago that I could no longer remember - and then telling me that I was a a candidate for alzheimers for not being able to recall.
Turns out we had nothing in common (other than being divorced and traumatised by it).
He kept pushing for more and more future dates even before we'd met for the first time.
He also was very bitter about his XW and peppered his conversation with references to what a B she was.
Truly, I suddenly understood how my X must have felt about me being so clingy and pursuing just after BD. Even how he felt when I tried to touch him and he would flinch. I felt pretty much the same way.
I learned something really important. I am not ready for a relationship. I just wanted to run away.
I've spent the last few days thinking carefully about a lot of things. I feel like the experience has put me back a fair bit.
But looking at it another way, an important learning experience I suppose.
