Your patience is transformed in agony right now. It's very hard to deal with someone we want a little distance so we can breath.
Ignoring your W this way doesn't mean you are detaching. I think you are just trying to hurt her, punish her for all the pain you are feeling. Maybe you need to breath and think twice about this because at the end of the day you will be the one hurt.
How that goes? You can't control your wife, her choices, actions, decisions... but you can control yours.
Also, I would like you to do your best to see yours and your W behavior through your kid's eyes. You need to be careful, you may have a 12 y old today but you will have a 16,17 in a few years. If you don't want trouble in a few, then think twice before showing so much attitude in front of you kid.
This wouldn't be to please anyone, it's your obligation as a dad to care for your kid and not create some wounds that he will have forever. It's not Bull****, it's what happen to people.
And if it's so bad to just keep being friendly, if you feel like giving up on DB, if it all lost purpose, then you can at least filed for Legal S - at least everyone will know their schedules.
This is a question I ask myself: - Are you ready to give it all up now? If the answer is yes, then go ahead, that is the easier path. But if you are not ready to give up, then calm down, bit yourself in a head and reevaluate what you are doing. Michele says in her DB book that yes, it is unfair that one S needs to do the hard work while the other one is giving up on a M, but it is you that wants to save this M, you are the one on these boards and it is you that needs to do the heavy lifting right now.
Think about HP, what is that you really want moving forward ( as much as you don't feel any hope, what does HP wants and how he can try to get there.
