I feel like if I were to go to acouncellor it would be like letting the flood gates open- I feel like the only thing keeping us together was me not 'exploding' .
Pie, going to a counselor doesn't mean you have to come home and explode at your H. It could be a safe space for you to talk about what's still upsetting you and the counselor could help you come up with a plan to improve the situation for yourself. Do you feel like your H has done everything you've needed him to? Is there anything you need from the m that he isn't providing?
I understand your concerns about your child's happines, but kids are more resilient than we give them credit for. I'm not saying get a D. But at least try and figure out what Pie requires to be happy. Surely your child would benefit from seeing you live a happy life, not one you feel miserable in. Listen, I agree we all need to make sacrifices for our children, but not at the total disregard of our own needs.
We are all routing for you. Keep your head up.
Me: 30 H: 35 M: 5 years S2 Signs of MLC started Feb 2014 BD - PA July 2014 Piecing/reconciling late July 2014