Bea, The more I think about the comment he made to you: "in your bed or out of your life", makes me think he's still thinking of you out there waiting for him. Poor man, time has actually stood still for him and he thinks that you are right where he left you many years ago, i.e., wanting to work things out and have him come home. This just goes to show how we can continue moving forward and they are in a time warp.
Well, all I can say is that when he does wake up, he's in for a very rude awakening because you and your family have moved on and nothing has stayed the same while he's been on the Mother Ship.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
