Moving now. He dropped the kids off at 6:00am no call no text. He is really on some kind of kick. The ow told my soon to be 6 year old that she can call her mommy or her name. My daughter chose mommy I was really hurt but I am telling the kids when your over daddy's it is his rules. That's my stands. This is a challenge for me but I'm gonna beat this. My exh grew up in a home where every new boyfriend or girefried were dad's and mom's so I have to keep in mind not to take it personal. I have to GAL ON!!! I'm gonna use this dark time to work on my responding instead of reacting. The kids always come back so high strung but I'm ready and able to get them on track. Can't wait till this stage is over. It's helping me to remember this has to change and I have to be the one to lead the change. Once I thought this to be impossible. I am the anchor for myself my kids and my ex. When this stuff happens I can see more that I have to stay strong and stand on my beliefs. First by not reacting this ow is not a factor and I'm gonna use dark to change my thoughts on this subject. THIS IS NOT About OW SHE IS JUST A SYMPTOM!!!!!! GAL on!!!
Me:34/EXH:29 Kids: S13, D5, D4 M/o7 HaskedforDgavetohim6/14 decided to work on get remarried counseling. Kids work went back to old routine. Left Nov 10 2014 OWDec92014
Rough day. Moving with 3 kids has been stressful.I'm pretty stressed it seems alot is getting done but not enough. I'm really humbled by this experience. I'm not quite sure how long I can hold up for its one blow after another. This is sucH a test of strength.
Me:34/EXH:29 Kids: S13, D5, D4 M/o7 HaskedforDgavetohim6/14 decided to work on get remarried counseling. Kids work went back to old routine. Left Nov 10 2014 OWDec92014
Me:34/EXH:29 Kids: S13, D5, D4 M/o7 HaskedforDgavetohim6/14 decided to work on get remarried counseling. Kids work went back to old routine. Left Nov 10 2014 OWDec92014
Faith, sorry you are feeling stressed. But look what you've already accomplished. And here's how you continue to hold up: you have three kids. You will do what you need to for them. Hang in there.
I'm so early in this sitch. Things have made a turn for the worse. My ex put a restraining order against me. He did it last month and did not tell me. He has been talking to me this past month without mentioning that he did this. At the end of the day he had every right to do so.. I shoved him before he left the marital home. And when I seen a car at his apartment I had threw a coffee mug through the window. He filed he regrets it he told our son that if he hadn't done it he would be helping us move. I spoke to a lawyer and we have court on Feb 5. I'm aiming to have it removed. I just want to be honest about whats happening. It just made me crazy seeing a girl with him. Now I'm paying the price. I have no choice but to except responsibility.
Me:34/EXH:29 Kids: S13, D5, D4 M/o7 HaskedforDgavetohim6/14 decided to work on get remarried counseling. Kids work went back to old routine. Left Nov 10 2014 OWDec92014
Any advice?? I feel pretty humble because my reactions out of anger have caused me my own pain. Someone told me that I can't react to what he says I need to get to the point of responding....oh I'm their because this is my own fault for not beckoning to that. ???
Me:34/EXH:29 Kids: S13, D5, D4 M/o7 HaskedforDgavetohim6/14 decided to work on get remarried counseling. Kids work went back to old routine. Left Nov 10 2014 OWDec92014
Geesh sometimes I wanna take the easy way out. This is grueling need some patients....any advice??? What are some more GAL activities on a budget lol.???
Me:34/EXH:29 Kids: S13, D5, D4 M/o7 HaskedforDgavetohim6/14 decided to work on get remarried counseling. Kids work went back to old routine. Left Nov 10 2014 OWDec92014
RELAX! Please remember the only person you control is you. Raging or attacking your ex will not solve anything. When you feel those urges, go for a walk or run. Get a kickboxing workout. Punch a pillow. Go for a ride in your car and sing at the top of your lungs. Dance around your house. It really does make you feel better.
Please think about the fact that your children are watching you. Focus on them and things that make you a better person and mother.
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
Ok thanks he texted my babysitter slash friend and asked me to pick up the kids for him. Thats a good start he is testing me and Im not going to react just respond. Im too scared to get my self into anymore trouble.
Me:34/EXH:29 Kids: S13, D5, D4 M/o7 HaskedforDgavetohim6/14 decided to work on get remarried counseling. Kids work went back to old routine. Left Nov 10 2014 OWDec92014
What are some more GAL activities on a budget lol.???
Faith, how big is the town where you live? If you search "what to do in __name of your city___ this weekend" (or the name of a bigger town nearby) you'll get a lot of hits. Some of them will be free, and many of them will be for kids. You can subscribe to the newsletters of nearby zoos, museums, etc. and sometimes they have free admission days and special events. Check MeetUp for grown-up activities. Do you attend a church or other house of worship? They might have activities for you and/or the kids. Do you have a college nearby? They might offer low-cost non credit classes as part of a continuing or community education program. Search for free or low-cost online classes, Craftsy has some free classes. Maybe you and your D13 could learn a new cooking technique together.
