Also: having a hard time with how you spend 10 years with someone as a part of your daily life and then one day you split and insert a new person into their spot and pretend the previous person never existed.
Yes -- he had plenty of time to mentally do the detaching he needed to do to get there, which I was not involved in until the bomb dropped.
It's still bullsh*t.
Because simply put thats the easiest way to do things. If you have a ready made replacement for something then its easier to concentrate on that and avoid missing the old one. You dont have all the fears and stuff that cause such anxiety and make us hold on and you dont have to do it alone. Its easy, unfortunately.
He would have a much harder time if he had a gaping hole where little used to be, but from the way you have described him thats not his style.
But yes, its still bullsh*t.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
