See, I feel like cleaning should be a 50/50 effort. BF slacked on this in our house and when it became clear I was the only responsible one for the upkeep and maintenance of a house we both contributed to, I started to seriously slack, too. In fact, I began paying a friend of mine to come clean, if it was done at all.

I'm sure BF was not impressed with me, but since I've moved into my own apartment I find it's 100% easier to clean up after only myself and not have to clean up behind him, too.

Partnering is hard, but it's a two-fer effort.

ME: 38
BF: 40
T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice)
BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R.
10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW
12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies